Wednesday, February 3, 2010

I ate the fat!

I am not a huge beef eater. I would rather have poultry or fish, pretty much any day. But Hubby likes beef, so we have it on occasion. Usually, brisket is low on the scale of beef I want to eat, as it is usually a little tough. My MIL makes good brisket...according to everyone in the family...but I just find it tough and a little dry. But nothing that a little BBQ sauce won't help.

A while back I had found a good price on a small piece of brisket, so had gotten it and stuck it in the freezer, thinking Hubby could make it to take camping or something. Yesterday, Hubby put it in the crockpot and cooked most of the day. We ate it last night and that brisket was so good that I ATE THE FAT! I don't eat the fat on anything! LOL! But this was absolutely delicious!

I felt really bad today because I was so mad about a phone call from my sister-in-law that I forgot to tell Hubby how delicious the brisket was. So I called him today and he laughed at me for feeling bad. LOL! (He, apparently, knew that brisket was delish.)

Since I mentioned being mad about a phone call, I may as well take this opportunity to have a little rant. There is a long, long backstory, but I will not bore you with all the details. Cutting to the chase, our oldest daughter, Meredith, and her hubby recently moved back to Houston, as he got out of the Marines and is going to school full-time. Well, they have decided to split up. I don't know why they have decided to split, but they were staying with his dad and this weekend, Meredith and their 2 boys moved out. We think that she did not think this through very well, but she did not ask our opinion.

Meredith was working part time at a restaurant, but today started a full time job at Nordstroms and plans to continue at the restaurant for a while. We thought she had everything worked out since she found a 24 hour day care to take the boys when she was working. Then her hubby will take the boys when he is not in school.

Well, my mother-in-law, who has a heart of gold and wants to help everyone (especially her grandkids, sometimes to the point that those people never become responsible) told Meredith that she would keep the boys whenever Meredith needed her to. MIL is 75, and though she is quite active, keeping up with a 3 year old and a baby is a little much for more than a couple of days.

MIL called Hubby on Monday to tell him that the daycare had no room for Wyatt, the baby, so she, MIL, was keeping the boys. She had offered to take the boys on Sunday while Meredith moved to her new place, then according to Meredith, insisted that the boys spend a couple of nights with her. The boys' daddy will pick them up tomorrow after classes and keep them Thursday through Sunday.

So, everyone is up in arms since MIL cannot possibly handle this, but she won't tell Mere. Now to the phone call list night. SIL calls and starts to leave a message that starts with how wonderful the boys are, she kept them for 3 hours while MIL went to a dr appointment and then turned into a rant about how Hubby and I need to "step up to the plate". I picked up the phone, much to Hubby's dismay, and could immediately tell she was totally stoned. (I only hope she smoked her dope AFTER babysitting.)

She started over again fairly nice, then went into how Hubby and I needed to take care of this, since MIL is exhausted. I told SIL that I have a job during the day. So she suggested Hubby just drive to Meredith's everyday and watch the boys. I told SIL that he could not do that and she demanded to know why. Here is where it got a little tough, since Hubby has kept a lot of his health issues a secret from his family. They have no idea he had a surgery after Christmas, that he had a rather large piece of bone removed, has been on a wound vac for 4 1/2 weeks and is supposed to stay off his foot.

I was irritated, but did not tell her all this, as it is Hubby's info to share or not. SIL then started telling me what we needed to MAKE Meredith and her hubby do. I told her that they are both adults and we can't MAKE them do anything. Her reponse, "So that's how it is. Thanks." and she hung up.

Hubby heard my side of the conversation, but it was enough that he immediately went and called his mom and told her all about his foot, knowing she would tell his sisters. He was REALLY mad. And he is talking about going to SIL's house and showing her his foot, wound-vac and all. I was totally shocked that he would even think of this! It would be a shocker for her, since noone knows that he has no toes. (Hey, I made a rhyme!)

I don't know how everything will play out, but I was so mad that SIL had the NERVE to think she could talk to me like that that I had a hard time sleeping last night. But I will put it out of my mind and sleep better tonight. I am not going to let that stupid cow deprive me of sleep!

Rant over. Thanks for listening.


Pam said...

I'm sorry to hear about your daughter and her husband. I don't blame you for ranting. SIL was out of line.

Frances said...

Hi, Pam. Thanks for stopping by and thanks for reading my rant.

It is sad about them splitting up, but getting divorced is so much easier than working on a marriage. Sad.

SonyaAnn said...

It is so sad when parents break up. And it must be breaking your heart. Then just to make it all better SIL gets stoned and goes off. You are such a wonderful person and you don't deserve it. Give me her address and I can handle it all for you.
"since noone knows that he has no toes. (Hey, I made a rhyme!)"-You are as crazy as I am! I had to laugh.

Frances said...

Hi, SonyaAnn. It's really sad when people get married so young and then just don't work to make marriage work.

LOL! at offering to go take care of her. She would be askeered of you!

SonyaAnn said...

Marriage is sooooo much work! There are times when I question what I was thinking. Den was 20 and I was 22 when we got married. I still wonder if we will make it.LOL
Speaking of askeered, Dawna was sick for a while! I think she is on the upswing.
But I got your back!

Frances said...

Marriage IS work! I don't know why more people don't understand that. I guess divorce is just too easy.

I saw that Dawna was sick. I hope she is better soon!

Tiffany said...

So sorry your family is making you crazy. I have a MIL that is also generous to a fault and it kills me to see my SIL take advantage of her.

Hopefully your daughter will figure out the right path and find good childcare for the kids. Marriage is a lot of work the hubs and I are youngish (33,27) and we've had times when it seemed divorce was the easy route but we both have divorced parents and that road maybe easier for the couple it's difficult on the kids and we aren't willing to go that road. For better or worse!! LOL

Frances said...

Oh, SonyaAnn, I meant to add that of course you and Den will make it. How could he live without your hilarity?!

Frances said...

Hi, Tiffany, thanks for coming to see me!

I pray for my kids, all my kids, every night. That is for sure.

Hubby and I both have parents that never divorced. Of course, our kids had parents that did. I didn't think it was easy to get divorced. It took a long time and cost me a lot of money and we didn't have kids or a lot of property.

You and your hubby ARE young, but keep working at it. It is so worth it to have a good marriage.

SonyaAnn said...

Any new updates?
Your hubs seems so easy going so I bet it was a shock to see him get so mad.
And I was thinking about you last night and your post. What the Hell is she doing getting stoned, watching the kids and going off on you! She is a mess! Sorry, I will just rant along side of you!

Frances said...

SonyaAnn, Hubby is really easy going, but this sister gets him fired up sometimes. She really is a piece of work and most of the family just "puts up with her." She is usually nice to me, but she had a history of butting her nose in and going off on people about things that are none of her concern.

She spends most of her time stoned (just pot....not the hard stuff. LOL!), but hopefully she didn't smoke until after watching the boys. She tends to be less high when she is at MIL's house.