Tuesday, March 23, 2010

It may be time to move on.

Without going into a great detail, I am no longer happy with my current job. I have worked for my boss for 11 years and though, at times, the work was not challenging (and sometimes downright dull), I really liked my boss, so stayed with him.

I could have promoted, or changed positions, within the company any number of times, but I have gone the workaholic route earlier in my life and chose to stay in a comfortable position. I don’t work ridiculous hours and I don’t take home work home with me.

During the summer, our group was reorganized under a new vice president. I don’t know much about her, except that she is a raging workaholic. My boss has since been trying to keep up with her and apparently doing whatever he can to try and make her notice his work. He is a really smart attorney who has been with the company for around 30 years, so just should not have to try that hard to be noticed. I think he is also intimidated by her, which really weirds me out, as she is younger than he is.

Well, January and February were rough. My boss was under a lot of stress and it all rolled straight downhill to me. I know, I know, shit runs downhill. But there are more diplomatic ways to throw it than the way he did. I always had a lot of respect for my boss and really, really liked him but my feelings have changed now. I am ready to find something else, though it is not going to be easy, since I still don’t know what I want to be when I grow up. LOL!

I was really upset over all this, but a couple of weeks ago, refused to let it all ruin my weekend, so I had an attitude adjustment. I have been in a much better mood, and find it amazing how much better you can feel when you no longer give a crap. LOL! I give a crap about my quality of work, but I am not going to let anyone make me cry at work again!

I am still doing my same amazing work. LOL! I am just not going to let anything my boss does upset me. Interestingly enough, he has been REALLY nice the last week or so. My friend says the boss is probably scared he went to far and is worried I am going to leave. Let him worry.


Annie Jones said...

Sometimes you can figure out a way to stay, but sometimes you truly do need to move on. I'm sure the answer will become clearer to you soon.

Meanwhile, I applaud you for choosing to stay in a comfortable position. Sometimes the stress involved in "moving up" just isn't worth it.

Frances said...

Oh, I could stay indefinitely, I just think I don't want to much longer.

I figure God will point me in the direction I need to go soon enough.

Pam said...

I'm glad you are not going to let his attitude bother you anymore! Good for you. :)
I understand how you feel. I still don't know what I want to be when I grow up!

Frances said...

Hi, Pam! Thanks for coming to see me. I did let the attitude influence me for a while and January and February pretty much sucked. Thank goodness life at home is still good.

SonyaAnn said...

Just let me know where I need to go and I'll take care of this. No one makes my Frances cry and gets away with it! Dirty F*er!
Are you ready to run away yet? I'll come get you and we can drink. Anyone else want to jump on board?

Frances said...

Oh, SonyaAnn, you are my hero! (And Hubby felt the same way. LOL!)

I only cried because I just could not believe some of my boss' actions. I truly could not believe he could be that way and I am still shocked.

I really am okay now, though I would love to run away and visit you. (Think my parents would mind if I just skipped my annual trip to see them??)

SonyaAnn said...

Hell I'll go with you to see the family.;)
Are you looking or are you going to let things settle down for a while? Normally, I would say get the Hell out. But with the economy being the way that it is, it is a bigger jump. My concern would be that if you left and found another place, you would be the first out if anything happened. But I'm sure you know all of this cuz you are smarter than me!!!
And if he says anything just remember all you have to do is tell me and then Sweet Knees and I will handle it!

Frances said...

SonyaAnn, I will not leave until I find something worth leaving for. I figure there is something out there...I just have to wait for the opportunity to present itself. Just like it did with this job. I wasn't looking for a job and it found me. LOL!

Don't worry, I won't become unemployed and move in with you!

Anonymous said...

Frances, I know you really hate your job, but think hard in this economy! Any job is hard to find, I'm fortunate to be an RN, but every now and then we too get "restructured". Pray, think and hopefully you'll make a wise decision.

Frances said...

Oh, Marilyn, I guess I should have mentioned that the job market in the Houston area is much better than in most of the country. There really are a lot of jobs out their that I could take, but I figure I am not leaving until I find the one I really want to take.

And I do not hate my job, really. I work with nice people. The work isn't that bad. I am just ambivalent about my boss now. But I have been in worse positions. LOL!

McVal said...

I hope you find something you truly love and find a work environment that doesn't make you cry. I've had employers and co-workers in the past that brought me to tears too. Of course, at the time, I had no other choice but to stick it out. I'm a fraidy cat.

Frances said...

Thanks, McVal. The environment here hasn't made me cry before. Usually, I just get mad, both here and previous jobs and make changes to what made me mad.

My tears this time were from disappointment over my boss showing his NEW colors.

Next time I won't be taken off guard.

Diane said...

Just look at it as a new adventure, maybe there is something else out there that will make you more happy in the working department. Look for something that you are really passionate about.

Frances said...

Hi, Diane. Thanks for stopping by! I pretty much look at everything as an adventure.

I just love doing new things. I get excited about learning a new job, then when I learn it well, I am ready for a new challenge. (I actually had a career counselor tell me that. LOL!)

Sheila said...

I had a boss that I thought was the best too--until his boss came to town. His boss started throwing things at me--literally--and my boss just stood there and let him. Later--after I walked off crying, my boss said he couldn't do anything--he would have been fired on the spot but I couldn't have been. I still don't know if he lied to me about that but I lost all respect for him at that moment. I never did leave that job until my husband was transferred but I did not enjoy it the way I did before.
Good luck to you--you sound much stronger than me!!

Frances said...

Oh, Sheila, what happened to you was terrible! I would hope that happened a long time ago, since HR departments seem to just love to get hold of that type of thing.

If any boss threw something at me, I would be on the way to HR. If my boss were abusive in any way, I would have left already. Fortunately, or unfortunately, he is just a weenie.

SonyaAnn said...

I was just stopping by to say hi and see how you are doing today.

Sheila said...

It was probably 14 or so years ago--and it was a vice president of a retail giant. HR said nothing to me about it but others told me I had a million dollars in my hand and I gave it back to the company. A month or so later another manager called me in and told me he had been fired as they had paid out too much money because of his court cases. I'm the weenie in this case--don't know if I've ever found my cojones--I usually just walk away.

Frances said...

Sheila, what an awful company to work for! Any company that would allow employees to be treated like that should be shut down.

I am glad you are not there anymore.